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Perhaps it seems like you're unable to use your free time the way you want because your friends or classmates pressure you into following their plans.

People who are constantly assertive actually have fewer conflicts in life because other people understand exactly who they are and how they feel.

Terms - Finally, after discussing the problem and how to solve it, decide on the terms of an agreement that will satisfy both of you.

[The Benefits of Being Assertive] Being assertive is simply a respectful way of letting other people know about your feelings.

Remember, being assertive will help you avoid unnecessary problems or stress caused by relationships with people in your life.

Assertiveness skills can not only help you deal with a problem, but they can also help reduce the amount of stress you feel.

Response - Describe the type of response you expect from the person and how it would help solve the problem.

In these types of situations, you can use assertiveness skills to stand up for yourself in a positive way.

Following the ASSERT formula may feel a bit awkward at first, but over time it will become second nature.

Assertiveness enables you to act in your own best interest, and stand up for yourself without anxiety.

By being assertive and making your needs clear, you will gain the respect and understanding of others.

Attention - To deal with people who are causing you problems, you first have to get their attention.

Approach them in a respectful way and let them know that you need to talk about something important.

For example, you might think that your parents and teachers have too much control over your life.

Assertive people, on the other hand, respect others and pay close attention to their feelings.

Speak about the particular thing that is causing you to feel upset, uncomfortable or unhappy.

So if you want to start having a happier social and family life, try being more assertive!

Soon, Simple, Short - When a problem occurs, deal with the situation as soon as possible.

But even when you don't, you'll feel better after having honestly explained how you feel.

And when you talk about the problem, be sure to keep your explanation simple and short.

[Assertiveness Quiz] 1 When someone treats you badly, do you talk to him/her about it?

6 When a friend wants you to do something you're not comfortable with, can you say no?

This improves their relationships, reduces stress, and can even make them healthier.

If you answered "no" to most of the questions above, you need to be more assertive.

3 When someone sends you a nasty text message, do you talk to the person about it?

Sometimes it can be hard to keep a level head when someone is treating you badly.

4 When you're waiting in line and someone cuts in front of you, do you speak up?

10 Can you resolve conflicts with others without getting angry and aggressive?

Sometimes, I feel like I'm pushed into doing what other people want me to do.

When sharing your feelings, you must be careful not to hurt or insult others.

Effect - Make sure they understand the effect the situation is having on you.

9 Can you tell your friends the truth about what you think and who you are?

However, there are certain responsibilities that come with being assertive.

5 Do you confront someone who is trying to embarrass or speak ill of you?

Specific - When describing the problem, focus only on the problem itself.

Our relationships with other people can sometimes cause a lot of stress.

7 Can you discuss family rules, like curfews or chores, without arguing?

Otherwise, you'll just be causing yourself a lot of unnecessary stress.

Aggressive people are not respectful and can easily drive others away.

But now I'm starting to speak up and explain what I want - Kevin, 19.

What's important is knowing how to solve those problems - Maria, 18.

Here are some questions to check how well you express your opinions.

Of course, you won't always be able to get exactly what you want.

2 When you know a friend is lying to you, do you say something?

In both of these situations, the ASSERT formula can be helpful.

8 If someone is bullying you at school, do you tell a teacher?

You might suddenly feel angry and want to scream and shout.

It's a simple formula, but it can have a powerful effect.

They try to make all of my decisions for me - Jason, 17.

Explain exactly how their behavior is making you feel.

You can't always avoid problems with other people.

Don't confuse assertiveness with aggressiveness.

Or you might feel afraid and unable to speak up.

My parents don't trust me enough.

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